How will I know (if he really loves me)?

If you’ve been reading my blog, you know I’ve been dating an awesome guy I met on online for several weeks now.  We are basically shack’em up mates (if you don’t know what that is, you need to watch Here Comes Honey Boo Boo) and crazy for each other.  It’s weird to think, I might never have joined eHarmony and met my beau if I had taken that walk down the aisle earlier this year.

I hate to quote Grey’s Anatomy, but I am doing it anyway.  In the last episode, Meredith delivered a monologue at the end about settling.

“When we follow our hearts, when we choose not to settle, it’s funny isn’t it?  A weight lifts.  The sun shines a little brighter, and for a brief moment as least, we find a little peace.”

It’s funny, because last winter I was about to marry someone that I thought was “good enough.”  The truth is, I was settling.  I’m grateful that something inside of me freaked the f*ck out and ran the other way or I’d be married to the wrong man and possibly knocked up by now.  Yikes!  When I called off the wedding, I felt free. A tiny part of me felt guilty for hurting my ex-fiance and wasting several thousand dollars of my dad’s money, but I felt lighter. Truth be told, I would have ended the relationship a couple of months after it started if my ex wasn’t a good hearted person.  I was more concerned with not hurting him than what I wanted and what made me happy.   When I finally ended it, I felt like ME again.

I don’t know what the future holds, but right now, in this moment I am happy.  I was happy when I was single before I met my man, but now I have a best friend/partner to share everything with, and that feels awesome.  I feel giddy like a little school girl and grateful that I met someone who enriches my life.

I ran across these signs you’ve found your soulmate on some website recently.  They kinda made me chuckle, but I think they have some truth:

11 signs you have found your soulmate…

1 – When you’re with him you feel like you’ve come home. check

2 – You feel like your partnership was meant to be as if kissed by destiny(Cheesy but I mean, I joined eHarmony kind of as a joke and the first date I go on I meet someone I fall head over heels in love with?!)

3 – In your communication with each other there is a rapid “knowing” of what each of you means. yep

4 – You have a shared mission in life, perhaps a cause, a career, or the creation of a family. 

5 – When you’re together the world seems like a better place. 

6 – Your mood is elevated when you’re together. It’s not necessarily passion or excitement, although that’s there too at times.

7 – When  you look at him you see a part of yourself that’s been missing. Perhaps it’s his assertiveness or joy of adventure.  But it’s something that when added to your life, makes you feel more complete. ** I think this one is total bullshit.  I am complete.  I want a partner who enriches my life, but I don’t need someone to “complete me.”  Take that Jerry F-ing McGuire!

8 – Being together makes you more hopeful about the future you are creating.

9 – You can be more authentic and fully yourself around your partner.

10 – Being together makes each of you work harder on overcoming bad habits and becoming more loving people.  

11 – These special qualities of connection are growing over time.  Not disappearing completely or diminishing. 

9 Signs You’ve Met The One

1) You’re Not Chasing the Relationship’s Potential

2) Who You Are Is Good Enough

3) You Manage Conflict Well

4) The Mundane Is Suddenly Interesting (This one is shockingly true.  I find myself wanting to do things I usually loathe like cooking, cleaning, and going to IKEA!)

5) There’s Minimal Drama—or None at All

6) Your Friends and Family See What You See

7) You Know How to Make Them Happy

8) You Have the Same Life Priorities 

9) You Respect the Person Deeply

What do you think about the signs you have found your soulmate?  Do you agree or disagree with these lists?