2015…The Year of My Global Domination
Dear Internet/WordPress friends,
Why is it so much easier for me to spill my guts online to strangers? Anyhoo, this year has been crazy and good.
After a crazy beginning…it’s ending on a particularly high note.
It really all turned around in July. I started meditating and writing again and finally feel like my real self. I haven’t felt like myself since October 2005 (when my best friend and soul mate died suddenly). Sure, there were glimpses of the real me, but I felt like a hollow shell of a person.
I realized that I was trying to fill a huge gaping hole in my heart with anything, shopping, eating, the wrong people, the wrong jobs, anything. It’s crazy looking back on all of the semi destructive things I did because I didn’t want to feel pain.
It’s also crazy how mentally fragile I was. For most of my life I’ve marched to the beat of my own drum watching the sheep wander aimlessly following the crowd for no good reason. Then I started listening to other people spew their bullshit of who they think I am and what I should do.
My advice: don’t take anyone’s advice! I understand the irony of that sentence, but it’s true. And especially don’t take advice from people who have lives you don’t want.
People have given me shit over the years about not taking a typical path and doing the 9-5 thing. I have nothing against that life for other people, but it was suffocating me. If you don’t love your job, why are you doing it? Yes, I understand bills, etc but you have choices. Most people would rather be victims than take responsibility for their lives. Are you truly living or just part of the rat race. That’s the thing about the rat race, even if you win, you’re still a rat.
Do what makes YOU happy. No one else has to live your life but you. Doing what makes you happy will inspire others to do the same.
Figure out what you VALUE. I value people and experiences over stuff. I’d rather be free, work for myself and travel.
Find what you are PASSIONATE about. I love film, music, travel, and stories. Even if I make no money doing it, I am a writer. I have written a couple of screenplays that I’m really proud of and enjoyed the process. I am fulfilled deep in my soul and that’s enough for me.
Surround yourself with good people. You become like who you spend time with. Choose your friends/partners wisely. And tell the people you love how much you love them. If you keep all of your good thoughts about them to yourself, they may not know how you feel. Just a few simple words can change a person’s day or life.
Appreciate what you have. It’s easy to take things for granted when you have them: good health, a comfy bed, the good people in your life. Take time each morning to appreciate 3 new things. That simple act has changed my life.
Look for the good in others and every situation. If you look for good, you will find it, if you look for the bad, you will find it. What do you want more of.
Everything always changes. I often hear people say, “People don’t change.” I’ve actually found the opposite to be true. People, things, this planet is always changing. It may be so gradual that you don’t notice it at first. Allow people to change. Don’t hold them to who they used to be. Are you changing for the better?
Goals for 2015:
- Give more hugs. 5 per day sounds good.
- Send a thank you card each week telling someone how much I appreciate them.
- Sell a screenplay and get my favorite director to direct it (GO FOR BROKE!!!)
- Write 3 more screenplays.
- Buy a vacation house.
- Go on a cross country road trip for the new show I am creating.
- Be better than I was the year before.
- Surf more (Costa Rica anyone?)
What are you excited about for the upcoming year?