So What’s The Texas Chainsaw Massacre Really About?

“It’s about relationships.” – my ma

This is an inside joke about my mom.  One of her best friends told me that whenever you ask my mom about a movie (she loves movies as much as I do, although her taste is questionable), her response is always, “It’s about relationships.”

Well…what I’ve learned in my crazy 33 years thus far is, it’s all about relationships.  My theme for this year (other than global domination and “2015, FUCK YEAH!”) is Awesome People.

Not only people I know personally, but also people I admire and strive to be more like.  As seemingly random as it is, I’ve been thinking about Robin Williams a lot lately for several reasons.  He starred in two of my favorite movies of all time (Good Will Hunting and Dead Poet’s Society), he inspired people, he made people laugh, and his death shocked millions.

Here are some of my favorite quotes/life lessons from the one and only Robin Williams:

  1. “What we do know is that, as the chemical window closed, another awakening took place; that the human spirit is more powerful than any drug – and THAT is what needs to be nourished: with work, play, friendship, family. THESE are the things that matter. This is what we’d forgotten – the simplest things.”  Awakenings
  2. “Carpe diem, seize the day boys, make your lives extraordinary.”  Dead Poet’s Society
  3. “To live… to live would be an awfully big adventure.”  Hook
  4. “What do I want to be when I grow up? Alive.”   Jack
  5. “You treat a disease, you win, you lose. You treat a person, I guarantee you, you’ll win, no matter what the outcome .”  Patch Adams
  6. “Hunger for hope may be worse than hunger for food.”  Jakob the Liar
  7. “What do you want to be in the world? I mean the whole world. What do you want to be? Close your eyes and think about that.”  August Rush
  8. “I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.”  World’s Greatest Dad
  9. “No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.”  Dead Poet’s Society
  10. “We don’t read and write poetry because it’s cute.  We read and write poetry because we are members of the human race.  And the human race is filled with passion. And medicine, law, business, engineering, these are noble pursuits and necessary to sustain life.  But poetry, beauty, romance, love these are what we stay alive for.”  Dead Poet’s Society
  11. “You’ll have bad times, but it’ll always wake you up to the good stuff you weren’t paying attention to.”  Good Will Hunting
  12. “You must strive to find your own voice.”

 

One of the most important relationships that people often neglect is their relationship with themselves.  I love people and love spending time alone.  Getting some alone time every day is essential.   I’m glad I’m at the point where I prefer my own company versus the company of the wrong people.

If you feel drained after spending time with someone, maybe it’s time to reevaluate that relationship.  Also, how do your friends feel after being with you?  Do you build people up and give them energy or suck the life out of them?

I read an awesome article about drama. If you have drama in your life, you are either a persecutor, a victim, or a rescuer.  A rescuer sounds the best because at least you’re not a victim or persecutor but it’s still a whole lot of drama.

There are a lot of people I care about who are rescuers.  Being a rescuer is draining.  And listening to rescuers talk about how hard they try to help people who don’t appreciate their help and don’t reciprocate their kindness and concern is exhausting.

Let me tell you a secret.  You will never rescue anyone.  Okay, if you pull someone out of a burning building, then that’s different.  But you know what I mean.

I love this article about Rescuing the Rescuer.  The thing about rescuers is that they care about people usually to the point of their own detriment.

This is one of my favorite quotes about helping people (from this article):

“If the Rescuer identity is ever to be given up for something more authentic, it will be for this singular reason: The Rescuer comes to understand that he can’t really save anyone. All saving is self-saving. All help is self-help. All influence is self-influence and all control is self-control. We don’t “get” people to do things. They either do them or they don’t based on their own belief systems, rationales and the choices they make out of those belief systems and rationales. We may push and prod, we may nag and cajole, we may manipulate and attempt to control, but the bottom line is that people do what they think is going to work for them. Even if what works for them is another financial fiasco, or another drink, or another abusive relationship, even if what works for them is a continuation of a Victim identity–they choose it based on their own belief systems, rationales and the choices that come from the same.”

So I vow not to be a persecutor, victim, or rescuer.  I’ll live the best life I can, be true to myself and hope others find the courage to do the same.

Now let’s go live!  FUCK YEAH!

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